Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day has a different meaning when you are a senior, and a single senior. If you had children, and you are now single, there is no husband to remind you what a great mom you were when the kids were young. You have to congratulate yourself on a job well done.
And if you are a senior, your relationship with your mother, if she’s alive, is very different than twenty years ago. She is more likely a dependent, needing care and attention. She is not your safety net. You are hers. And if your mother has died, does that mean you’re an orphan?
The best part of Mother’s Day for me is to see that my three sons are doing well. My oldest son is a wonderful father. He and his family are taking me to Carlsbad, California for Mother’s Day weekend. What a gift! To spend time with him, my amazing daughter-in-law, and my two brilliant and beautiful granddaughters and go to the beach, too! I will miss my other two sons, but we will celebrate before I leave or after I get back. My two older sons are legally my stepsons, but they lived with me from ages six and nine. I consider them my sons as much as I do my youngest, whom we adopted at birth.
Mother’s Day for me is bittersweet, remembering my daughters Emily and Elizabeth who died almost twenty-five years ago in a plane crash. The memories of their years with me warm my heart but it still breaks with their absence. If you want to know more about this, you can get my book, As One Door Closes, new or used from Amazon.com.