Archive for March, 2012


March 17, 2012


I’ve been in California this week, coasting in many senses of the word. I spent four glorious days at the Mendocino coast. We (two couples and me) stayed at a fabulous house called Whale Watch. I highly recommend it. See the pictures at  and rent it at The living room, dining room, master bedroom, and family rooms have panoramic views of the waves crashing on the black rocks. I saw whale spouts and seals!  I loved sitting on the deck or in the living room on the comfy furniture staring at the crashing foam. Mesmerizing. We sat in the hot tub at eight in the morning, watching the ocean. We drank wine on the deck as the sun set


I read, ate gourmet meals my friends prepared, had meaningful discussions, and shopped, went to the Botanical Gardens and saw unbelievable rhododendron blooms,


Annie and Susan among the lavender








and snacked on quality dark chocolate caramels. In other words, I coasted. One couple I’ve known for more than thirty years and the other I knew just slightly. It was comforting to be in the company of people who love each other after so many years of marriage, still enjoy each other’s company, and were gracious to me.

There was no cell phone service up there, so I got to “coast” from my life. I felt free! No responsibilities as a parent or friend or date or colleague, just “me” time. Writing this makes me feel a bit guilty but I totally luxuriated in the calm.

The weather was supposed to be rainy every day but it mostly was wet at night. It was overcast and cloudy which added grandeur to the setting.


I’m back to Santa Rosa for a few days. Tonight Susan is putting on a St. Patrick’s Day birthday party for me. She’s making Irish soda bread, corned beef and cabbage, and homemade horseradish sauce. Tomorrow we go to SF to see Vanessa, Susan’s daughter and my godchild. We’ll eat at the City View Dim Sum restaurant in China town and do some tea shopping if there’s time before I catch my flight back to Phoenix. I’ve only been gone six days but I’ve renewed my inner resources and am ready to get back into my real life.